I get to my place tired. This has been happening quite a lot of late. I am tired, sleepy, and hungry in that order. My idea is to get in the house, quickly prepare something to eat (what’s easier to prepare than ugali and eggs?), and get to bed.
Getting to the house, I flash out my phone. I need to see if I’ve missed any calls on my way home (who am I kidding, it’s been 5 min since I last checked my phone). But you never know, I may find out that Swaziland became the most powerful country and we were sold to China in just five minutes.
I find myself scrolling through my Facebook wall. I come across a post from a lady friend. The caption to her photo is #men are trash, #self-love, #queen of my own kingdom, #in-love with me. I know she’s been dumped…btw guys, if you decide to involve your online friends in your relationship, please inform us when you break up also. It’s is good manners…thank you very much.
I am shocked to realize that an hour has passed with me just staring at my phone. I thought I was tired! It is too late to start cooking now. I don’t want neighbors to start looking at me in a weird manner. I will just take a snack and hope my tummy will hold on until morning. My phone rings and I almost ran to the door. It should be declared illegal to call people so late at night!
I sense something is very wrong on the other end the moment I hear Mike’s (let’s call him that for now) cracked voice. Mike is ever smiling, ever cracking jokes. Now it seems like a very bad joke has left his voice cracked. He tells me that Lucy, his little sister was found dead in her apartment. In her suicide note, Lucy says that she’s tired of life…always trying, never getting it. Lucy has faced rejection from all aspects of life. The last one completely ruined her though. Her ex-fiancé while breaking off the engagement told her that she was a good girlfriend, but she wasn’t good enough to be his wife. “Life was not meant for me. Maybe there was a mistake in my being brought to earth. But I am going to rectify that mistake now.” Mike reads a part of the note to me. By now, his voice is no longer just cracked, it is broken. I don’t know what to say to him. What do you say to a man who is crying uncontrollably on the other side? What can you possibly tell someone who just lost his only sister? Can any words make it right?
I wish Lucy’s story was an isolated one. Unfortunately, it isn’t. How many cases have we heard of people who have committed suicide after being rejected? How many times have we faced rejection and it made us feel so unworthy?
Rejection is cruel. Sometimes it feels like getting hit by a truck, except that in this case, the truck leaves you dead but very much alive to feel the pain. As long as you are alive, you will always face rejection. There’ll always be someone who thinks that you are not good enough. There will always be a company that thinks you have nothing of value to offer them. That girl you have been trying to woe may not even see anything attractive from you. Rejection can make you resentful, it can make you seek revenge. It can also make you lose self-esteem and in extreme cases, rejection can make you take the easy way out, like Lucy did.
Now that we have already established that rejection will always be there, it is of greater importance to understand how we can respond to it, making sure that it doesn’t consume us.
Isaiah 53: 3 He was despised and rejected by mankind, a man of suffering, and familiar with pain. Like one from whom people hide their faces he was despised, and we held him in low esteem.
I love Jesus, I love his ministry on earth. I don’t think we have every faced as much rejection as Jesus did. Yet his response to the rejection is a glorious one. Jesus did not retreat to a corner when they rejected him. He did not stop doing good even when they accused him of using powers of Beelzebub to drive out demons. Jesus knew the truth and he stood with the truth even when the situation looked nothing like what he knew. I want us to remind ourselves of some of these truths in just few minutes.
Psalms 139:4 I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made
When God made man, He said, “let us make man in our own image and likeness.” God made you beautiful. It doesn’t matter how dark or how brown you are. It doesn’t matter how tall or how short you are, God didn’t make a mistake with you. Everything He created, God saw that it was good. I pray that you may learn to see yourself as God sees you, then you will no longer listen to the voices that tell you otherwise.
God tells Jeremiah that before I formed you in the womb, I knew you. I already had plans for you. God made all of us unique, there is nobody else like you. He created you for a specific purpose. So before you start thinking like Lucy, that there was a mistake in you being brought to the earth, I want you to know that God created you for a purpose, and find out what it is. The problem with our current generation is that we’ve been taught that we can be everything. So we struggle to be someone we were never meant to be. We struggle to impress people we were never meant to impress. You struggle to become a singer because that’s what they want you to be while in all truth, that’s not where your heart is. A friend of mine puts this so beautifully:
“Don’t be everything. Be you.
Don’t do everything. Do you
There’s only one you, and the world needs you desperately.
You have to be yourself to truly be excellent.”
Jesus came to earth not to just die for our sins but also to show us how to live as children of God. So child of God, know that God has accepted you. He says that he will never reject you. You have to get to a place where you do not listen to the voice of the enemy. Learn not to listen to anything that is not consistent with the word of God. The word of God says that you are strong, because God is your strength. So when they tell you that you are weak, that you can never amount to much, remind yourself that you are strong in the Lord. And anytime you face rejection, remember that Christ has accepted you.
Set yourself free child of God. Free from the voices that tell you that you are good for nothing. Free from the voices that tell you that you are unworthy. How do you set yourself free? With the Word of God.